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• 1 baby girl // May 4, 2009 at 6:27 am

  I agree there is nothing wrong with going to work and raising children or staying home and raising children. They both have perks and they both have downfalls. but you shouldn’t talk about someone else who chooses to do things differently.

• 2 KELLEY // May 5, 2009 at 6:06 am

  WOW, that was a harsh answer someone wrote! I think both jobs are equally important and it is sometimes not a choice for moms to work…some have to in order to support their families, that doesn’t mean they shouldn’t have children. Each family makes a decision based on what is best for them.

• 3 ghain39 // May 7, 2009 at 7:22 pm

  mostly because they wish they were them and they wish that they could have what they have instead of being at home everyday and taking care of their kids. they wish that they could have a life also and not be so strap down all the time. i mean at first staying at home might have been fun, but after a while I am sure it got pretty old and tired.

• 4 Amelia // May 9, 2009 at 3:04 pm

  I think that really goes both ways on here-

  That’s how catty women are.

  I’ve been on both sides and there are pros and cons to each.

  I’m a sahm now and would LOVE to be able to get out alone sometimes and get a break BUT I’d hate to have my kid in daycare and only see them long enough to feed them, bathe them and get them in bed….

• 5 erinjl123456 // May 12, 2009 at 8:10 am

  I am a stay at home mother… I see a lot of mothers who put down us who don’t work either. Everyone has their own life and and does what they have to do. What is good for one family may or may not be good for another. Instead maybe people should cut the nasty comments on both ways.

• 6 joliefemme24 // May 12, 2009 at 5:18 pm

  I know what you mean, I’m expecting my 1st and I work full time, will have a maternity leave (only 84 days where I live) and then go back to work full time, not because I dont care about my baby girl but because I need to work in order to afford all my house/life/baby’s expenses. And I think it would be really innapropiate and selfish to ask my husband to get 2 jobs so that I can stay home. It’s both our responsibility….I do wish I had more time on maternity leave, but there’s nothing I can do about it…unless I win the lotto LOL then I could saty home forever

• 7 mommy_2_liam // May 14, 2009 at 12:02 pm

  I agree with you…there are different situations for different people. My son goes to a family daycare 3 days a week…he absolutely loves it…and spends 2 days a week with Grandma and Grandpa. I find that a little daycare is good…its like school…it teaches them to socialize. I don’t understand why some cast their opinions on others…MY son is a very happy well adjusted child.

• 8 tmreiber // May 15, 2009 at 7:03 pm

  I’m a stay at home mom, and I never talk ’smack’ about working moms. Before we had children, I had a great job and made a great salary…but I chose to stay at home with my children. It has been a tremendous sacrifice, financially.

  I don’t think that I’m a better mom than those who work. I believe I’m the best mom I can be for my children and that’s what is important. I personally think working moms have the best of both worlds. They have their kids and a life. I don’t always feel like I have my own life. My every minute revolves around my kids. At least working moms can go to the bathroom without two kids following them.

  As long as every woman is doing the best she can as a mom, that’s really all that matters. God does not call every woman to stay at home. Proverbs 31:10 – 28 says that the woman raises her children, keeps her house, works, and helps financially in the house. So I don’t think that God says women HAVE to do nothing else.

• 9 Alaysia W // May 16, 2009 at 6:40 pm

  Working women are the best. Shoot, I was working when I was 7 months pregnant, But at the same time, stay at home moms are doing a GODLY thing. But one thing for sure is you should just be the best mom you could be. And in my case that is going to work

• 10 Loves L // May 19, 2009 at 7:23 pm

  Luck has nothing to do with being able to stay at home with your kids.It’s a choice like the choice to have or not have kids and when…We’ve made lifestyle choices to be able to do it but I wouldn’t reccomend it for everyone.I do without a lot of things to be able to stay home. I’m not saying that to appear noble or anything it’s just that for us it’s an important choice to have one of us be home for our kids.I would never be able to afford to live in CA, I mean the cost of living there versus income earned would mean that it would be difficult to get by on one income.We can barely afford to do it here in FL although we found it much easier to stay home in the midwest because it’s much more affordable than either the west or east coast.I’m sorry that people have said mean things to you because your wife needs to work. Sometimes it’s just because so many of us stay at home moms hear the same shit over and over from people who are judging us for staying home.Like if I wanted anyones opinion I’d ask them… If I hear one more person ask me this I’ll pop them one.”What do you do all day?” and the ever popular “It must be nice to get to stay home all day” meanwhile they’re living beyond their means in an expensive home , driving a new SUV and getting $150 highlights every month while sucking down a $6 dollar frappucino from Starbucks.I don’t judge them because I know they’re doing what they feel they have to do, and thats ok.Same goes for me. You brought up some valid points in that people need to quit judging others lifestyles.There is no one right way to raise a family and everyone has to do what works for them.Hey if you and your wife are happy with your choices then that’s the only thing that matters. If you notice that your kids aren’t doing very well or that your wife is burned out or overly stressed from having to work & raise a family then I’m sure you both will talk about it and decide how you want to handle it.It’s all about making choices and isn’t good when we live in a country that allows us the opportunity to do just that.

• 11 Amelia // May 21, 2009 at 9:56 pm

  I’m a SAHM and would like to direct my first comment to the woman who said that we are jealous and being at home has gotten old and boring. That couldn’t be further from the truth. I love being at home with my kids. It is important to me to be here with them and raising them instead of letting the system raise them. Being at home is far from boring. I don’t undestand how any SAHM could be bored. I have a lot of work to get done in the day just taking care of the kids and keeping up with the house. On top of that I do volunteer work and run my own home business. So while some SAHMs need to back off, I think some working moms need to get off their high horse and realize they aren’t better than everyone because they work outside the home. I’ve had people assume I’m stupid and uneducated because I don’t work outside the home. I have two college degrees and I’m a former newspaper reporter and elementary school teacher. I’m no idiot. I just choose not to work because I want to be the one to raise my kids.

  I am not against mothers who work. I understand that some mom’s have no choice. But I do have a problem with women who don’t need to work and choose to rather than being home with their kids. I used to work as an infant care manager. I worked at a child development center and I was in charge of all the employees that worked with the infants and toddlers. Time and again I’d see very wealthy moms bring their 6 week old babies in and take off for work. These women did not NEED to work. They just decided that wanted to. They wanted the baby but they were not willing to give up their careers. Why have a baby? Seriously. If you are going to put a child in daycare for 8-12 hours a day, even when you don’t have to, then why have one? It makes no sense to me at all. In the case of one family we found out that the parents often went on mini-vacations over the weekend and left the baby with a sitter. So, the baby was in our care all week and with a sitter on the weekend. That poor child was nothing more than a trophy or doll to those people.

  We were with those children when they first started crawling, walking, talking, etc. We were there for all their mile stones. There were a few infants that were so attached to us that they cried when their parents would come to take them.

  I realize that every situation is different. I know that some moms have to work. In fact, many of our lower income moms would come in to visit their children between college classes, on their lunch breaks, etc. If they had a day off they’d call and say they were spending the day with their kid rather than bringing them to daycare. These were working moms but they were good moms.

  They were much different than one of our rich moms who brought her daugther in near the holidays. The poor kid had an ear infection. She was actually oozing stuff from her ears but they had a note saying she wasn’t contagious. The poor kid was miserable. Her mom brought her in and she was in our care for the entire day. I found out later that one of the providers, who had the day off, was at the mall and saw this girl’s mother shopping with relatives that were visiting. Nice. Her daughter is sick and should be at home in her own bed, being comforted by mom. But mom stuck her in daycare so she could go shopping.

  I’m not against all working moms but I just have zero respect for those that dump off their kids and choose to let someone else raise them because they’ve decided they don’t feel like it. But you make a valid point as well. I’ve known many SAHMs who are just as bad. The kids are neglected. I’ve known so many who simply sit on their butts watching the soaps ALL DAY.

  In my my mind being a SAHM is a job. So, I treat the week like a work week and I relax on the weekends. I don’t watch tv during the day because I’m working.

  I think it all has to do with what kind of mother you are rather than being about if you stay home or not.

• 12 Kim M // May 22, 2009 at 8:12 am

  I am a stay at home mom and so do not get crazy on mothers who work. For anyone who judges otherwise, they obviously have never had to worry about finances. I feel blessed that I am able to be home with our children but there are also days that I am envious of women who get to go to work. Most people now a days have no choice but to have two incomes. How are we to tell anyone that they should not have a child because of this. Not many people would have children if that were the case.

• 13 DarkAngelCountryGirl // May 24, 2009 at 8:21 am

  AMEN!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!!!!! In only my wildest dreams could I be a stay at home mom. I also live in California too and unless you make 200 grand a year, there is NO WAY I could stay home to raise my daughter. I even feel guilty because of the fact that I can’t, I feel like I miss out on a lot of things. I love her and I have to provide for her, so that means I have to come to work everyday, sick or not and earn my money.

• 14 olschoolmom // May 25, 2009 at 5:14 am

  Crazy on them? not me, I feel sad that there children that can’t share the day with the ones they love, and are stuck in day care.

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